Christian dating advice how far is too far

With intercourse out of the question, there are ways to grow in intimacy with another and yet remain chaste.

When it comes to intimacy, the million-dollar question is “How far is too far?

In this way, the other intimacies support the physical.

Affection says to another, “I care for you so much that I’ve run out of words to say and want to show you” or “I want to give you a physical experience that touches and blesses you intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.” Affection is the outward expression of something that is occurring within the couple internally; this something is more than physical attraction.

On the other hand, lust is excessive sexual desire not controlled by concern for another. Lust is an appetite that seeks to satisfy itself at the expense of another and is unconcerned with intellectual, emotional, or spiritual health.

It is never healthy, loving, or giving, even in marriage.

Obviously, affection should be the primary goal of every healthy couple—never to use each other for physical gratification, but rather to love each other.

A healthy romantic relationship should be based on a friendship, with physical acts being the “icing on the cake.” A cake isn’t made with icing in the dough; it would never rise.

You must first make the cake (relationship) with the essential ingredients of flour (great conversation), sugar (fun together), eggs (similar moral values, spiritual agreement), and brown sugar (respect, honor).

When all of these work together and rise, add the icing (physical intimacy).

A cake, like a romantic relationship, is incomplete without icing (at least some physical sign that this person is more than a friend).

Acts of physical affection progress as the friendship and relationship grows, with the couple eventually arriving at a place where marriage makes sense physically, intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually.

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