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Having a child who is dating is straight-up terrifying for a hundred different reasons, but I happen to believe there’s value in this (supervised! So we talked, and exchanged all of the observations and hopes and fears we can never express to our children, because them dating is practice for us, too—practice in letting our kids make their own choices and deal with their own consequences, even when the stakes may be high. Every now and then I fumble through a short “here’s something I think it’s important for you to know” speech to my kids, finding myself awkward and uncharacteristically at a loss for words. But with the benefit of a keyboard, I was able to distill it down to just a few points I hope my teens will be able to take to heart, even when those hearts are busy fluttering. If this level of checking feels unbearably weird, that’s a sign you’re not ready.How do you explain what it’s taken a lifetime to learn, and what you, yourself, would’ve scoffed at back before time taught it to you the hard way? There’s no guidebook to explain this one, so a good rule of thumb is that you should put someone you care about first sometimes and they, in turn, should do the same for you (sometimes). Being generous and selfless is wonderful; being taken advantage of, I’m sorry to say, is a real risk if you’re not careful. If this makes your partner anything other than concerned for your comfort, consider that this may be the wrong partner.And if it happens to you, it means your partner is gross and selfish, not that there’s anything wrong with you. To be human is to love people who sometimes hurt you, either accidentally or on purpose.

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I was chatting with an old friend last night, and by old I mean that we have known each other for a very long time, and also that we are both feeling quite old, lately, because we have teenagers and that is a very aging malady.

(I think I finally figured it out: Up to a certain age, the kids get older as one would expect, and of course so do we.

If you are a parent to a blossoming teen, consider discussing these crucial aspects of relationships with your child before he or she enters into a relationship: Be sure to teach your teen about the foundations of a healthy relationship.

Explain that a healthy relationship comes from respect, mutual understanding, trust, honesty, communication, and support.

If you always put the other person first, and/or they never put you first, there’s a problem. You’ll have your whole life to learn to deal with necessary interactions that hold an inherent amount of power inequality. You, in some ways, have more power over the guy who brings you coffee and relies on your tip. Consent is not just about intercourse and it’s not just about not saying no.

And I’ll be the first one to tell you that plenty of people are more important and more powerful than you, and the sooner you accept this as part of life and just deal with it, the better. If everyone knew that 1) they had to be totally into it and 2) they had to check to verify that their partner was totally into it before proceeding, well, the world would be a better place. (This Laci Green video about Steubenville is NSFW and maybe not safe for younger teens, but I love her take on consent being mutual and enthusiastic no matter what the level of intimacy.) Personally, I dislike the oft-repeated sentiments about how someone is your “better half” or “makes me a better person.” You’re a whole, fascinating person without a love interest.

But they hit puberty and suddenly they become deranged little Benjamin Buttons, somehow, where their behavior regresses while we grow old twice as fast.

There is dark magic afoot in any house containing an adolescent.) There is much to discuss (and offer your sincere condolences for) when comparing lives in a houseful of teenagers.

Pro tip: Any thought that begins, “But I don’t want to hurt their feelings, so…” is the path to dishonesty that is 99% likely to bite everyone in the butt later on. Very few people end up in a forever relationship with their first crush (or even their second or third).

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